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Month: June 2020

The A-sexual Lesbian: women want sex, get over it !
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The A-sexual Lesbian: women want sex, get over it !

A-sexuals most probably know the meaning of true love more than the rest of us since we require physical and sexual attraction. It's all about the soul connection.   I once knew of an a-sexual lesbian who would actively chat up women but when it came to sealing the deed she was not too keen. She would then go on to complain about how they don’t want to be in a relationship with her as she doesn’t wish to participate in sexual activity. Evidently, you cannot blame the women who have been misled by my ex-friend who failed to mention that she was a-sexual. You cannot force someone to give up what is naturally embedded in them just to please you. People are programmed in many different ways and we must accept others' individualities. My ex-friend who for the sake of anonymity I will...
Part 2 – Lesbian dating: pull your hair out it’s a nightmare 
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Part 2 – Lesbian dating: pull your hair out it’s a nightmare 

I was in a fit of rage as to why catfish feel they are justified by misleading people !   In my previous article I share my experience of having been catfished by a man. It doesn’t quite end there and unfortunately I have another similar encounter but with a twist.  If only I was Julia Roberts in the film Notting Hill but being swept off my feet by a female version of Hugh Grant. This time I took extra precautions in making sure that the person I was speaking to on the other end of the phone was in actual fact a woman. Little did I know, I was about to face another extraordinary bizarre encounter.   I decided to try out the dating site Plenty of Fish. There was even more choice and it felt like being a 5 year old in a free to grab sweet shop. Devouring profile afte...
Film recommendation: Disclosure
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Film recommendation: Disclosure

A timely, important, and hugely engaging documentary, in which trans creatives chart and analyse the representation of trans lives on our screens. When this documentary was announced in February as the centrepiece of the 2020 BFI Flare Film Festival (London’s LGBTQ+ fest), it felt timely. When that festival was cancelled due to Covid-19 and the film was only briefly on BFI Player, it felt like a loss. But now it appears on Netflix and is, sadly, even more timely – after JK Rowling saw fit to air her views about the trans community on her huge platform, both the US and UK governments sought to roll back trans rights, the Black Lives Matter protests have taken centre stage and we have witnessed the abuse received by model Munroe Bergdorf from a member of the UK House of Lords. But as w...
PART 1 – Lesbian dating: pull your hair out it’s a nightmare
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PART 1 – Lesbian dating: pull your hair out it’s a nightmare

A labyrinth with no way out. So don’t mind the thorns sticking out of the bushes because they are not as painful as the dates.   When it is time for us ladies to date, where do we go ? online. The bars are crowded with women who are mostly looking  for casual hookups so the likes of Plenty of Fish, Wapa, She, Her and many other apps and online platforms offer us a way out. Though we are spoilt for choice, what the hell is actually lingering on those media platforms ? From men posing as women, from couples looking for a third party, from transvestites thinking that any lesbian could not refuse, from women catfishing and from everyone with a secret agenda we are royaly arse fucked. Lesbian dating in the year 2020 is nothing short of catching a shooting star. Good luck because you ...
When in love, you’d better be disenchanted
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When in love, you’d better be disenchanted

Hope and illusion first, disappointment and disenchantment then. Only once disenchanted, you can genuinely love and feel loved. Deep in our hearts, we hope to find someone beautiful on the inside and outside. If and when it happens, since we don't know them enough, we start to project our needs, dreams, and expectations on some kind of strangers. Most of the time, these projections have nothing to do with the person we fall in love with. We tend to believe that everything is perfect, but it's just an illusion of ours. As soon as the other shows their true colors - and we don't like what we see - we feel disappointed. The truth is that they are not responsible for our reactions since pretty much all the chemistry we were feeling was something our minds made up. Disenchantment is to r...
Internalized homophobia turns gay victims into perpetrators
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Internalized homophobia turns gay victims into perpetrators

They are gay but don't feel part of the LGBTQ+ community; they don't like pride parades and don't support marriage equality, and would never give a dog to a gay couple, let alone a child. It's called internalized homophobia and turns gay people into assholes. Psychology defines homophobia as irrational prejudice against homosexuals. It's typical among religious extremists and ultra-conservatives whose beliefs, principles, and practices are full of bullshit like machismo, xenophobia, and heterosexism. Homophobes do have personality issues, but we all know that the worst homophobes in the world are gay. It's called internalized homophobia and pisses many gay people off when other people's homosexuality is visible and recognizable. They must have forgotten how bad it hurt when they were i...
Film recommendation: Moffie
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Film recommendation: Moffie

This beautifully made, powerful drama set in apartheid-era South Africa about a young gay man doing military service addresses the dangers of binary thinking, at personal and national levels. This film is set in the early 1980s in South Africa, when the minority white government was facing conflict on the southern Angolan border while battling the threat of communism and its terror of an uprising by the majority black population. Like all young men over 16, Nicholas must complete two years of compulsory military service to defend the apartheid regime. We follow him during his brutal training and into battle. It is initially unclear whether Nicholas is gay, or just cut from softer cloth than many of his contemporaries. But when a flicker of understanding between him and the rebellious...
The 30 year old child: Why do Lesbians not mature with time ?
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The 30 year old child: Why do Lesbians not mature with time ?

We are selfish, desire driven, drama queen, lust motivated women who are destroying our very own environment by opening the door to continuous and poisonous drama.    Have you ever found yourself at a Lesbian soiree and come to the conclusion that they all live at home, no potential career, no class and no general ambition unless it’s to indulge in drama. Lesbians would make great drama script writers but instead they opt for the minimal that life has to offer. Why are we not prone to bettering ourselves ? Is working as a waitress and in sales all we are worthy of complying to ? Any job is an honest job but when we have been given the opportunities so many seek why do we conform to being unambitious individuals ? If you walk into She bar you will mostly find women who have opted...
Gay people hating gay people
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Gay people hating gay people

The last thing you need in life is hate. So stay away from haters, especially if they're gay. Some gay people think gay people suck. They feel superior and entitled because even though they are gay, they are not like other gay guys. The others are just unkind, promiscuous sluts. Many gay men lead an intensively active sex life. Many others don't. Reportedly, more than 70% of EU homosexual men have a job that keeps them busy pretty much all day long, Mondays through Fridays. This is enough to understand that not all of us can spend our days thinking of or having sex 24/7. And even though most of us gay people do not have families with children to take care of or look after, it doesn't mean we don't have a life with our responsibilities, duties, and deadlines to meet. Some gay men fee...
Taking Pride in educating children
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Taking Pride in educating children

The only way to combat homophobia is by taking pride in educating our children in the fight for equality. I did not have a strong gay influence growing up, I was uneducated about many issues regarding queer history; and in my opinion, many essential teachings on LGBTQ+ history. Until secondary school I did not know that it was possible (let alone allowed) for the same sex to be in love, in my opinion society had already installed in me that this behaviour was unacceptable, meaning I kept my own sexuality a secret, tried to hide it. I was in no way ashamed, but instead scared of the reaction it would create. Society telling me that no gay person or LGBTQ+ allies would be welcome with open arms. Looking back, I'm curious as to how I would be different had I been informed and educated abo...
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